What would you do? Love to hear your opinions

[June]

My mother in-law has Alzheimer's and we have to make a choice

!. we can put her into permanent care

2 She can come and live with us in the granny flat or in our spare room

I'm really torn here. I don't want her to go somewhere she will hate and feel deserted and unloved. Yet if she comes and lives with us it scares me that she will totally consume my life. It is totally draining having to explain something over and over and over again.

What would you do?

Any advise here would really be appreciated

June

[Lindy Asimus]

As you've heard from others, it is a lot dependent on how far her condition has advanced. Again, it is your mother-in-law, and without knowing what your relationship with her has been like,but it is pretty safe to asume the heavy lifting around her care will fall to you.

Caring for your own parent would be hard enough. Caring for someone not your parent wiill certainly be no easier. If you have children then you have another dilemma. Showing your children that duty is something to accept as a responsibility is a fine thing for them to model, if it is appropriate in the context. Becoming a martyr is not. As her condition deteriorates it may become a strain on everyone in the household.

Look to your inner self. Do what is the right thing for you, and for the right reason.

Good luck with it June. It is a difficult challenge, and one that many of us will likely face.

[Lisa Edwards]

Good luck with your decision. I know that must be a hard one!

[Lynda Leigh Louise Sherwood Simpkins]

Hi June
I take care of a lady that is in the late stage of Alzheimer, and I have took care of others. I can tell you this the person lives longer and happyer at home with there love ones even if you don't thank that they know where they are or who you may be. Alzheimer is sad feelings to the family and it is a hard and long job day and night. I would tell you to take her home and try it if you can not handle the Alzheimers { you notest I said Alzheimers not your Mother in-law because what happens is not her it is the Alzheimers} but if you can't handle it then place her in the nice's permanent care that does take care of others Alzheimer people. This way you did try and you know you did plus your husband knows you tryed too and that will meen a lot belive me it will pray for stranght and humbless God bless all of you..
Evangeist Lynda